Where are you registered?

Ok, so we're not registered anywhere.* We don't really NEED anything, nor should anyone feel obligated to give us anything.
We need a home. We've got the stuff to put in it. We are hoping to save up for a honeymoon next year so any addition to that fund would be gratefully accepted.

I've told my mom some little stuff that we'd like but since it's too hard for us to register in one place, here are some ideas for things we may like, need, or use. I will add on if/when we discover something new.

*We are technically "registered" at Target but...there are only Legos on the list. Because we like Legos.

• I recently added a registry at Bed, Bath, & Beyond- because it's pretty awesome and with our impending move, we may find some things we need! Click here to view it.

I really like roosters in my kitchen.

• We'd like an airpurifier with reusable/permanent filters. Such as this one at Home Depot.

• Movie passes- Boulder (Cinemark), Loveland (Metrolux), or Longmont (eventually, Regal. It's not done yet.)

• Breakfast/Lunch/Coffee/Dinner dates- Mike O'Shays, Flavor of India, Ragazzi, Pinocchios, Texas Roadhouse, Santa Fe Coffee & Burrito Café, Ziggi's, La Vita Bella, Old Chicago's, Santiagos, Tres Margaritas, China Panda, Efrains, Dickens, Basil Flats, Noodles, Thai Kitchen, Leenie's Café, IHOP, Red Robin, Sun Rose Café, Mod Market, TGIFridays, Cheese Importers, Racheli's, Snarfs, Panera, Smashburger, DQ, Scrumptious, clearly we're not too picky...

• Spices, spice mixes, recipes.

• Handmade soap, especially goat soap. We love the one that's sometimes at the Longmont farmers market- http://gmsoaps.com/

• We both like pretty much everything at Crystal Joys in Longmont.

• Store gift cards are always welcome. We frequent, or have access to, some of these places-

Target, Ross,Walmart, King Soopers/Kroger, Michaels, Hobby Lobby, Bed Bath & Beyond, Best Buy, Kohls, Barnes & Noble, World Market, Amazon, Hot Topic

• We like to frequent the Longmont Rec Center. I don't know if it's possible to give punches to someone but, hey, give it a try if you wanna. I've got a 20-punch membership under my name but we're about out.

• We need a toolbox. Seriously. It's a problem. 

Hopefully that is helpful for anyone who needed an idea. :)
We like local, we like unique, we like to go out on the town!

Those who I can't invite

I can't help but wonder how things would be if my grandma was still around. Or even if I'd seen more of her before she died. Things were very weird then. I can't even explain how it resulted in less communication with her, but that was one result. It wasn't necessary. Things have kept their weirdness and it has increased. It's troubling but should lessen pretty soon because I'll change things.
Specifically, as of late, I've wished grandma was here to partake in some of this wedding stuff going on.
(I feel like I've written ALL of this before so....you know...if you're bored you can just go away.)
I feel like there would be more fun and less stress in the planning if grandma was helping. I just assume she'd be helping. And she'd be having fun. Because that's what she did. I guess I'd be looking forward to it a little more overall if I knew she'd be there.
I also know that if my friend Deb was still here, she'd be excited about everything too. She'd go on errands and quests with me. She'd listen. She'd probably even show up since her social anxiety seemed to be less than in past years. It's an important thing so she'd buck up and hope for the best, I'd think. She'd be excited about the cake. She'd be worried about what to wear.
Everything seems so disconnected. People are helping but things just rarely feel quite right. I don't know how to explain that either. Just over 50 days now. Hopefully I can get a lot to come together in the next few weeks. We'll have the food sorted out, the clothes (hopefully) sorted out, and a couple things checked off the list. That'll be nice.
Since I can't actually describe anything here I guess I don't have much more to tell about it.
I just think life would be more comfortable if things were how they used to be. Not perfect, but at least as expected. Things preserved, things not awkward. It would be nice. I'm not sure I'd be able to get her to dress like a pirate though...
I mean, I probably could have but THAT I can't quite imagine.
Since they won't be there, then part of me won't be there. It's the part that comes out when you're around someone specific. If they aren't there then it's dormant. There will be elements that are similar but I think every relationship with another human is unique. It's like that movie that came out, Inside Out, with the little personified feelings. The one that's the little "grandma is here"  or "Deb is here" dude is retired. He doesn't show up anymore. Only in dreams and memories. 

I value manners, not etiquette.

The wedding invites are all sent. For better or worse. There are people who didn't get invites that may have wanted invites. There are people who didn't get invites that may have expected invites.
This is not because anyone is unwelcome at our wedding. This is because people expect payment for hosting a wedding. Most friends understand this but it still bugs me. If you've kept up with my ranting you are WELL aware of my guest list struggle. I'm glad I never have to do it again.
There are a few people who may get messages from me on this topic. If I can put out a last minute invite, I'll do it. Why not? It's a party. It's not proper or whatever but who cares. It's all reigned in because of money anyway. That's lame. I mean, sure, we could have done a pot luck wedding but it's just not what we had in mind. We're fancy and we're gonna take this one-time opportunity to do something a little fancy and overboard.
I had rules about who I was able to invite and I already overlooked a few of those but I think it's ok. They're my rules so I can break them if I want to.
Can I live stream the wedding? Then everyone can be there.
People best send their RSVPs though! Don't waste that stamp!

I don't know the point here. Take what you will from it.